FOR FIRST TIME MOM- WHAT TO DO WHEN BIRTH LABOUR PAIN STARTS?

At last, the time has arrive for your baby to come out into this world, a great relief..? Partly yes and no. A relief because after nine months you will now see your baby, you will now be able to hold him in your arms, kiss his beautiful angelic face.. but. partly no because the painful part starts here.

To tell you frankly going through labour pain is such quite unforgettable. However, once you see your baby, it will all be forgotten. Well, my niece is having here labour pains right now as I am writing this article and here's what I told here to do. Hope this will help here.

So how to cope up with pain. As for my personal experience, here's what I did?

First, as soon as I felt something comes out from me like blood stain, I immediately prepare myself by taking a bath. You have to do this because it will take few days before you are able to take a shower. To tell you frankly, I put on perfume and lipstick (hehe, why because I still want
to look good though I'm experiencing pain) But seriously speaking the perfume did quite well during my labor. Since all I think about is pain, the sweet aroma I smelled help a bit.

Second, I make sure that you are wearing comfortable sundress.(of course I hope you already
prepared the things you need to bring at hospital prior to your labor, this is a must!)

Now, during the labour I take a walk around the room, this help me with quite easing the pain.
I also brought with me a small face towel which I will put in my mouth once I start to push my
baby out. This will prevent me from biting my lips.

Believe me now when I say this, the best way to push your baby out is when you feel a contraction in your vagina. You have to a deep breath and push the baby out while holding your breath. Good thing I am in choir and we do holding of our breath during our vocalization practice. Anyway, following this guide will help you not to drain too much energy and for easy delivering of the baby. Holding your breath is especially important when the neck of the baby is out, you have to hold it for a moment so that the baby will not get choke and he will not have long neck.

Once the baby is out, time for you to relax and let the doctor do their thing. In a minute, the
doctor will give you your baby and it will be a wonderful feeling.

Welcome to mom's World!

SUMMER TIME

Summer is the best time for children, right?? I bet you would agree with me if you are a parent. Got so much excitement when we took our vacation at Batangas. my little girl jazmine, had the time of her life .. embracing the waves and inhaled the salty sweet smell of seawater.

Got some picture of her enjoying the beach.

LEARNING TO LOVE OUR SELF

I always believe that everyone of us has a purpose. The Lord provided us with best things in the world, it is for us ourselves to seek & find it.

One of my favorite author Rick Warren said that " To change your life, you must change the way you think. Behind everything you do is a thought. Every behavior is motivated by a belief, and every action is prompted by an attitude". He is right.

The best thing I realized is that in order for you to have a great foundation of really giving importance to your self is that to KNOW that "God has loved us with ALL HIS Might, with ALL HIS Strength & with ALL HIS Soul". He is willing and able to give us His protection and whatever we need because of this unconditional love. If God was so gracious to give us HIS omnipotent love, who else can hinder our success? He wants us to prosper, excel & be loved. Therefore, the song of Ms. Whitney Houston truly affirm that "learning to LOVE your self is the greatest love of all". If you are able to love yourself, it will be easy for you to sorround love, joy & happiness to people around you.

SPREAD LOVE FOR GOD IS LOVE.

FIVE LANGUANGES OF LOVE

Each of us have different needs & personality, the way we talk & view different situation or events we encounter in our life. Amazingly Dr. Gary Chapman's was able to divide this needs of understanding through five love languages. Being able to know these languages will help us to connect with other people and understand making us more sensitive to someone's feelings thus reducing conflict, pain and hurt.

Communication is the key to have a successful relationship whether it be towards our husband or wife, parents, children, friends or even to strangers.

We want the other person to know that we understand, love and we care for them. But since we have different ways of expressing love and different ways we need to receive love, 5 languages of love are define below:

1) Words of Affirmation
Mostly called verbal appreciation, it use verbal compliments to feel loved. Person under this love language appreciate even a simple words like "You look great", "You're the best cook", "I love the way you do ...."; Another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is by Offering encouragement. eg. supporting a difficult decision, praising progress they've made on a project etc. If words of affirmation is the primary love language of a person then offering encouragement from loved one will help them to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

“I can live for two months on a good compliment” - Mark Twain

2) Quality Time:
Quality time is about focusing all your energy and undivided attention on the other person. Quality conversation involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a loving, uninterrupted situation. Often they are just wanting a sympathetic ear, to feel that they are truly being heard - not someone to solve their problems.

People feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together brings people closer and give you things that you can reminisce over in the future. Quality time and communication is a necessary ingredient to happy relationships.

3) Receiving Gifts:
Some people respond well to visual symbols of love. These are treasure gifts express as love and devotion. Lack of gifts represents a lack of love. Fortunately this is the easiest love language to learn. However, if you are a saver it may be difficult for you to understand spending money as a way of showing love - remember this is not about investing money in gifts but in your relationship.

Gifts don’t need to cost a lot of money, they don't even need to be every day or even every week. If the persons primary love language is receiving gifts then any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

4) Acts of Service:
Sometimes doing simple jobs around the house can be an expression of love as it requires time, effort and energy. This can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion.

However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates therefore you have to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love. Example If you spend the day washing the car and walking the dog but your partner feels that giving him a snack while he is working on something are more important then he may feel unloved, despite the fact that you did many other jobs throughout the day.

It's also important that these acts of service are done out of love and not obligation. If these are done for the wrong reason than the partner doing these acts may feel resentment - they need to come from the kindness of your heart. These little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

5) Physical Touch:
Many people feel the most loved when they receive physical contact. Sex makes many partners feel secure and loved in a relationship. However, it is only one aspect of physical touch. It is important to understand how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to various touches. Some touches may be irritating and uncomfortable for your partner. Physical touch can be big things like back massages or lovemaking or little acts such as a hand on the shoulder or stroke of hair.

All relationships have crises and in these times physical touch is very important. A hug can communicate your huge love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice. Remember though that what type of touch makes you feel secure may not be what makes your partner happy so you better be sensitive about.


Summary:

I always believe in the bible when it states.."love thy neighbors as you love your self. Treating someone important as you treat yourself will make it easy to adjust & be sensitive to someone else needs. Communication is a two way process & it will only be shown if we act kindness towards one another.

What ever language of love we have, bottom line is to express it genuinely & with sincerity.

Test what language of love you have.

My source - Dr. Gary Chapman

tips for kids party

I love party especially if it is for my kids.. last February 2, 2009 my smart daughter celebrate her 6th birthday!!

Her request party at school! In order to make her birthday more memorable we do a "extended celebration" meaning celebration at their classroom & party at our backyard.

I'll share step-by-step strategies, so you'll save time, effort, and money in birthday preparation.

1. Prepare the most easiest party food for kids.. what else hamburger, hotdog on stick, a juice, spaghetti. Kids do not eat lots at the kids party.What they truly love is the games.

2. Look for a wonderful cake! It can be simple but remember cakes have always been the focal point of birthday parties. For a young child the cake is the party. He or she waits in anticipation to blow out candles and make a wish...

3. Prepare games for the kids! There are lots of games to play at the party such as:

The "give me game"

The birthday celebrant ask the gets to give her something she ask, whoever give it to here first won a prize!

The most favorite one .. Trip to Jerusalem!!

This birthday party game is great for an active group of children. They can let of some steam without getting out of control.

Place chairs in the room so they are arranged either back to back or in a small circle. Get the children to form a larger circle around the chairs. Play music as the kids march around the chairs.

As soon as the music stops, the players must quickly occupy available chairs. Whoever is left standing is out of the game. Remove one chair every round so there is one less chair than players. The game continues in this fashion until there is only one player left.

funny pictures - my cutie kids

This was taken during our picnic at Quezon City Circle, Philippines. I will always remember this precious time where my kids are kids, full of innocence, happy and content. What a wonderful feeling to be a mom!